50 Rejections




A simple shift can change EVERYTHING.


It’s not an over-statement. If anything, it might be an understatement.

I wanted to get into this today because I’ve embraced one of those slight ‘shifts’ that is creating monumental change in my world. And, it’s only just begun.

A few weeks ago one of my close friends and business peers Patty Lennon shared a story with me about a friend of hers. Her friend, Lisa Marie Hayes, decided to create a challenge for herself, but instead of your standard ‘make a sales call a day’ type of challenge, she decided to go for 50 Rejections.

Holy Cr*p.

So, as is customary for me, it’s taken me a few weeks to align with taking this on. I can’t usually jump right in to something scary like this, so I took my time, thought about it, and then got a little prod from friends and now I’m ALL IN. (The prod from friends came when Patty publicly announced this challenge on a women’s networking group board and people started saying they were in… I decided, now or never – sometimes you just have to get off the pot, right? :- ) ).

I’ve created a form to write my rejections in, I’ve started looking for the opportunities for getting a rejection (they are EVERYWHERE) and I’ve started keeping track of the things I’m reaching for. Already, I’ve taken on a few challenges I’d been avoiding, like applying for a competition and calling a few people who told me they were interested in something I have to offer. We’ll see where it goes, but I can already feel the momentum shifting – even if these things don’t bear fruit, I know that some things will – I just have to be willing to embrace the opportunity.

What is SO BEAUTIFUL about this challenge?

It changes the way you think and feel about what you are reaching for. If you are AIMING to be rejected, you can reach for a whole different level of possibilities – which means you’ll ask far more often and for bigger things than you may have even considered before. If you’re going to be rejected, it might as well be for some big stuff, right? And, it’s hard to be too disappointed in being rejected when that’s what you were trying to achieve in the first place… HUGE mental shift.

Stay tuned for more on this – I’ll be documenting the experience as I go along.

Wanna play? You can take a look at some of the conversation going on about it here.


(P.S. I have a webinar coming up where I’ll be sharing one of my biggest tips to marketing that gets you more clients, more cash and, ultimately, puts you back in charge of your life and your time. You don’t want to miss it – you can register herehttp://www.paysoncooper.com/webinar/# )



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  1. Melissa says:

    As strange as it sounds, I actually am loving the idea of this! It might even push me to do more than I have been since rejection is the goal. I have been trying to get out of my comfort zone more and more, and this might be the thing I need.
    Thank you!

  2. Payson says:

    Thanks for the comment Melissa! And, totally agree! It will open you up to going for bigger things if you allow it to – the shift from trying to get approval to trying to get rejected is HUGE! Keep me posted on how it goes and if you want to join the FB group, let me know!

  3. Hello Beautiful,

    I am not sure I completely understand. Going for the rejection allows you to just jump!? I would like to work with you at some point, but I need to honor you and there is no extra money at the moment. I am willing to move this faster towards success. I have signed up for your free webinnar.

  4. Payson says:

    Hello Gorgeous! :- )
    In some ways, yes… if you decide the purpose for reaching out and asking for something is to see if you can get rejected, much of the fear associated with it (if you are truly in that mindset) will dissipate. You will find it is much easier to ask, as you are not attached to a ‘yes’ answer.
    Thank you for signing up for the webinar – hope you enjoy it! :- ) It would be lovely to work with you sometime – please feel free to reach out anytime. And, thank you for the comment! :- )

  5. Robin says:

    Phenomenal! Totally agree that little shifts have a huge impact. Everything we fear is between our ears. When you make a game out of it, you win every time! Simple and true. Brilliant post…thanks for sharing. :)

  6. Payson says:

    Thanks so much Robin! Love that, “Everything we fear is between our ears.” So true!! :- )