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What’s Holding You Back

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A few days ago I was in line at a store waiting to make a purchase. I was running a few minutes late and the woman in front of me was taking a lot of time putting away her money, wallet and other goods, so I reached over the magazine rack on the counter to hand the clerk my items. Generally that wouldn’t be an issue, but in this case, the woman took a great deal of offense, saying she had the ‘right to put her things away’ and telling me that this is how ‘stuff’ gets started.

Keep in mind, I hadn’t touched her or her belongings, she was clearly upset or having a bad day and decided this was a good way to express herself. I continued my process with the clerk, interacting with the woman as little as possible, and letting her have her anger.

As I left the store (she was still getting herself together), I had to take a few deep breaths to re-group. Once I got a handle on it, I started to think about how that kind of anger and frustration with the world can hold us back. Lashing out at the world, making someone else wrong (or, alternatively, ourselves), being angry… basically playing ‘victim’. It is probably one of the single most effective ways to DESTROY your success.

When you get caught up in that kind of loop, you can’t get excited, inspired or motivated. The great ideas don’t flow your way. People don’t want to spend time with you or hang around you – at least not the ones who are going places. The only people that want to be with you are the ones who want to gripe, complain and gossip with you – fanning the flames of the upset.

So, here’s my challenge to you… the next time you start to slide down that slippery slope, take yourself firmly in hand and SHIFT your perspective. I had to do it after leaving that store… for a few minutes I was really irritated. Then I decided it was more important for me to focus on where I was going, the people I was going to see and what came next. I pushed it out of my mind and it didn’t come back until I walked past the store on my way home, and then it only lasted a moment.

Do whatever it takes to let go and move onto something else in your mind. It’s ESSENTIAL to your success. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did… and just a little while later you’ll be wondering what all the fuss was about anyway. :- )

And, if you are ready to take full responsibility for your business growing the way you want it to, then you’ll definitely want to check out my upcoming Make Your Marketing Work webinar – we’ll be talking about the single most important shift you can make to bring in more clients and more cash this year. You can register here.


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Whew! Let’s Dive In!

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I’m FINALLY feeling like I’m getting back into the groove of work after a long holiday break. I feel refreshed and excited… and hoping you do too!

Today, I wanted to touch on some thing that have been percolating for me over the past few weeks, and even more intensely in the past week or so…

It’s about the stress I feel around work, around getting things done, around responsibilities and not wanting to disappoint people… figured it might be worth sharing as you might be experiencing some similar things… are you?

It occurred to me the other day that feeling that stress was a choice – 100% my own decision. It is self-inflicted pain. Habitual discomfort. It’s almost like if I’m not feeling it, I should feel guilty because I’m not ‘doing it right’ – it’s a bit hard to put into works, but I’d bet pretty much anything I’m not the only one having this experience.

So, yesterday I decided to feel differently. Every time I started to feel stressed out about some work I had coming up, or something I want to accomplish and that icky feeling in the pit of my stomach started to rise, I took a deep breath and DECIDED to feel differently.

I decided to feel ease and peace around it. I decided to know that whatever I do, I will do my best and it will work out great. I decided to let other people’s feelings be their own (heck, probably 99.99% of all the concerns I have are ONLY in my head!) and stop getting into their business, and keep my mind on my own.

Where could you decide to drop some of your stress? What would it be like if you felt as good as you feel on the weekend or on vacation EVERY DAY, even while you work and grow your business?

I’ve decided that’s the experience I’m ready to have, and I’m going to be shifting my mindset consistently until it is my habitual experience… until ease, peace and joy are the ‘norm’ as I come up on Sunday evening and spend time thinking about what is coming Monday morning.

Want to join me?

Oh, and, in case you are ready to take your business to the next level and know that 2013 is the year you want to put massive (and effective!) marketing into effect, you will want to check out my upcoming Marketing in the Morning™ webinar. We’ll be covering some of the most important keys to marketing that gets you more clients and more cash (which are the ultimate ‘stress-busters’!). You can register here (it’s totally free).


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