Putting on your ‘confidence coat’ when you don’t know where the frick it is…


Some days are just kinda sucky…

Come on… admit it. You have those days too. And how we deal with those days is a very important piece of our success.

Those days can really shake us at our core, making confidence hard to come by…. and, confidence is one of those keys to getting where you want to be – whether that is closing a client or getting yourself out the door for a networking event. If you don’t have confidence, very few other things will fall into place in your world… it seems like the people who have the most confidence have those ‘golden’ experiences, where everything seems to go their way.

What to do when you’re feeling crappy

So, what are you supposed to do when you’re feeling a bit crappy (or maybe even a whole lot crappy), but business, and life must go on?

Here are a few of my thoughts, feel free to add your own in the comments section – always interested in new ideas!

  1. Get quiet for a few minutes and take a few deep breaths. Think about what you would really like to do for the next hour or two – not what you SHOULD do (stop shoulding all over yourself! :-)) – what you WANT to do. Give yourself a break and go do what you want for a bit. You’ll be surprised at how quickly you feel your confidence come back, and the inspiration (and desire) to do some more of what you ‘should’ do.
  2. Go for a walk, run or bike ride – whichever you prefer. The process of moving our body changes your physical state and will change your emotions as well. You could even throw on some tunes and dance like a maniac all over the house… whatever floats your boat!
  3. Collect the wonderful, kind, generous, beautiful and lovely things people say about you – whether it’s testimonials about your work or a sweet comment from a loved one – if you keep a special book where you have those things just for yourself, when you need a ‘pick-me-up’ they’ll be right there waiting… ┬áthe real challenge is remembering to read them when you need to!

Those are a few things to get you started… and which will hopefully help that coat move itself to the front of the closet, so you don’t have to go rooting around in the dank, dark and dusty back corners. Not much of a coat if it’s down there anyway. You deserve better!

If all else fails…

And, if all else fails, you can always turn to someone in your life who supports you and loves you for who you are. Confidence comes from understanding your value and self-worth… knowing that just who you are is just right and that your brilliance will shine through when you are just being you.

(Here’s a picture of me and my Dad from a few years back – he’s one of those people for me… nice pants, eh? :-) I do like that coat my dad has on… may have to get me one of those…)

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  1. A few years ago, eh? :)

    …Nice post, I think you’re spot on. I also think sometimes, the crappy day requires an introspective look into what we’re doing that’s causing the issue.

  2. Payson says:

    Absolutely agree Chase, thanks for bringing it up… particularly if those days show up with any kind of frequency. :-)

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