What’s Holding You BackBy
A few days ago I was in line at a store waiting to make a purchase. I was running a few minutes late and the woman in front of me was taking a lot of time putting away her money, wallet and other goods, so I reached over the magazine rack on the counter to hand the clerk my items. Generally that wouldn’t be an issue, but in this case, the woman took a great deal of offense, saying she had the ‘right to put her things away’ and telling me that this is how ‘stuff’ gets started.
Keep in mind, I hadn’t touched her or her belongings, she was clearly upset or having a bad day and decided this was a good way to express herself. I continued my process with the clerk, interacting with the woman as little as possible, and letting her have her anger.
As I left the store (she was still getting herself together), I had to take a few deep breaths to re-group. Once I got a handle on it, I started to think about how that kind of anger and frustration with the world can hold us back. Lashing out at the world, making someone else wrong (or, alternatively, ourselves), being angry… basically playing ‘victim’. It is probably one of the single most effective ways to DESTROY your success.
When you get caught up in that kind of loop, you can’t get excited, inspired or motivated. The great ideas don’t flow your way. People don’t want to spend time with you or hang around you – at least not the ones who are going places. The only people that want to be with you are the ones who want to gripe, complain and gossip with you – fanning the flames of the upset.
So, here’s my challenge to you… the next time you start to slide down that slippery slope, take yourself firmly in hand and SHIFT your perspective. I had to do it after leaving that store… for a few minutes I was really irritated. Then I decided it was more important for me to focus on where I was going, the people I was going to see and what came next. I pushed it out of my mind and it didn’t come back until I walked past the store on my way home, and then it only lasted a moment.
Do whatever it takes to let go and move onto something else in your mind. It’s ESSENTIAL to your success. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did… and just a little while later you’ll be wondering what all the fuss was about anyway. :- )
And, if you are ready to take full responsibility for your business growing the way you want it to, then you’ll definitely want to check out my upcoming Make Your Marketing Work webinar – we’ll be talking about the single most important shift you can make to bring in more clients and more cash this year. You can register here.